The thought of dealing with " Happy Ending Massage " expectations, for most massage students and therapists, literally makes them physically ill. However, we must all be prepared for the day that a client's inappropriate actions become reality.
Happy ending massage essentially means massage that ends with some form of sexual contact. They are offered in un-licensed, illegal establishments that are often in the news after being raided and shut-down, as they are usually just a front for a prostitution business.
For those who consider massage therapy careers, one of the most negative aspects is the fear of an inappropriate act on the part of a client.
Being prepared for those times, which can happen in a spa, home office, or clinic, can make a really horrible situation much easier.
In-room massage can be the most uncomfortable and hardest to exit, but, setting the stage for a professional massage therapy service can make a difference.
Steps to Avoid these Clients:
1. What type of massage are you looking for? If they answer "pleasure massage", "body shampoo", "everything massage" or even " happy ending massage ", apologize and hang up the phone!
2. Why are you searching for a massage therapist? You are looking for answers like "stress relief", "pain relief", or just "relaxation". You might even discuss your routine and what will happen in the massage as well as your certifications and licenses. This tells them you are a professional!
3. Have you had professional massage therapy before? If the answer is "yes", ask what kind, where, and if the therapy was beneficial to their pain or stress problems.
Before the session:
1. Asks about "all-over" massage
2. Asks for "thigh massage"
3. Nervously inspects the room when he/she first arrives
4. Points out he/she did not wear underwear
During the session, if the client:
1. Tries to touch you
2. Moves hips/Moans/Groans
3. Asks to be nude
4. Requests to be on top of sheet or blanket
5. Breathes heavily
6. Wants "butt" work
What to do if a client sexually advances?
You may be interested in reading more about these concerns and how to handle different situations. The Ethics of Touch: The Hands-on Practitioner's Guide to Creating a Professional, Safe and Enduring Practice teaches difficult, confusing and sometimes really scary dilemmas that therapists have to face. This book provides great guidance and support for when and if this happens.
Attempts to develop a friendship outside of the professional massage room setting is one thing, and can also be uncomfortable, but sexual advances are the worst.
Expectations for a "Happy Ending Massage" can also be quickly averted by placing a sign in your massage room which simply states "We offer a professional and healing environment for massage therapy and will not tolerate any form of inappropriate behavior".